Gender Pronouns & Why They Are Important

A person’s pronouns convey their gender identity. Transgender, gender nonconforming, gender-fluid, non-binary, and other LGBTQ+ people use a wide variety of pronouns that affirm who they are. Using someone’s self-defined pronouns respects all identities on the spectrum.

Small things you can do to make a difference

Gender is just as fluid as language. Always ask for someone’s pronouns, as they may change.

One way to do that is:

sample conversation to identify preferred pronouns
Kasey: “Hi, my name is Kasey. Today I am using ze/zir pronouns. What pronouns do you want me to use for you?”
Lucian: “Hi, Kasey. Thank you for asking. My pronouns are he/him. Please let me know if your pronouns change.”

Using Pronouns in Conversation

Subject Object Possessive Possessive
Pronoun
Reflexive
Pronoun
she her her hers herself
he him his his himself
they them their theirs themself
co co cos cos coself
en en ens ens enself
ey em eir eirs emself
xie hir hir hirs hirself
yo yo yos yos yoself
ve vis ver ver verself
ze zir zir zirs zirself

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